John Peter Sloan

Dear John,
I’m married and I’ve never cheated on my wife until... now! I’ve met a very sexy girl. We had sex and it was wonderful, but unfortunately I want more and more and more and I haven’t been able to stop. Just sex!
What should I do? Should I tell my wife the truth?
Bruno

Is it “just sex” for your lover, too? Or are you making promises you can’t keep?
It’s true that after a period of time with the same partner making love can become routine, but you can do something. TALK to your wife. You’ll be surprised what you can achieve by talking to her. Maybe she could be just as exciting as your new lover.

Dear John,
I read about your unpleasant experiences in an Italian hospital and in a police station in Speak Up, issue 301. I just disagree when you say that English policemen are polite. Not at all. Their treatment depends on what your position in society is. If you’re black, poor or Latin, you certainly won’t get the same treatment as a rich person.
I’d like to illustrate this by commenting on two cases that have shocked people here in Brazil. The first is  Jean Charles, a young Brazilian killed by British policemen in London after being mistaken for a terrorist.
The second was another young Brazilian murdered by British policemen after having stolen a biscuit in a store. They used excessive force.
So, do you call this polite? Imagine what would happen if an Englishman was murdered by  Brazilian police officers!
Reinaldo, Rio De Janeiro

It’s true that I did generalise a little and maybe I shouldn’t have, but you are generalising, too. In my opinion both examples were tragic mistakes. Anyway, my view remains that generally many policemen in Italy can have a very intimidating attitude (even on simple spot checks with innocent members of the public), and I don’t think this is right.

Dear John,
Why do men constantly lie?
Anna

Women lie, too, they just lie about different things. Lying is a very human thing. I always say to my daughter “I’m not going to tell you not to lie because I know you will, just don’t lie to those you love... because in this case, you can lose a lot!”