John Peter Sloan

Dear John,
Every time I want to talk about my problems with men they just change the subject. Do you think this is right? Or is it just a sign of immaturity?
Elena

Amen.

Dear John,
I live in Venice and I’ve got a little/enormous problem: I like a guy I’ve already met. Just imagine, I’m single... he’s in my best friend’s class... we’ve chatted on FB... he’s nice and kind... what can I even hope for? OK, now I’m not shy, on the contrary I’m outgoing, always smiling, but when I try to write to him I worry about looking good, sounding funny, friendly, pretty... I know, I’ve always been told: just be yourself, but when you’re not self-confident... I would like him to notice me... but I cannot face the idea of a date! What can I do?
Anna

If you’re not confident enough now, the best thing is to go out in a group. Your attractive personality comes across in this message... So it is you... So be yourself and let me know how you get on!