John Peter Sloan

Dear John,
I’ve had just two girlfriends in my life. My relationship with my first girlfriend was 12 years ago: we had been dating for one year when she moved to another city, 1,000 kilometres away from my home. As a result of this, I became single and we lost contact.
Nine years later I started dating my second girlfriend, and we’ve now been together for two years. We love and trust each other very  much and the idea of marriage has become a daily issue for both of us.
Strangely, sometimes I think I’ve still got some feelings for my first girlfriend, even though we haven’t had any contact for  a long time.
Is this kind of feeling for one person who doesn’t matter anymore normal, even though I really love my current girlfriend? Why are we always attracted to something that we can’t have?  
Thiago

Your first love is your first love and will always have a special place in your heart. This is normal, but let’s talk about the most important thing. Marriage. Don’t do it! I don’t really understand why people get married anymore... it’s not even fashionable these days. The money you would spend on a wedding could be much better spent on a lovely holiday or a new car or a new oven... ANYTHING but on a wedding! You don’t need a piece of paper to show you love her.

Dear John,
I’m a 16-year-old girl. Lots of people my same age usually spend their Saturday nights in trendy clubs, and their parents let them come back home at crazy hours, like at four or five o’clock in the morning. In my Dad’s opinion this is unconceivable, and he would never let me go; my friends’ parents agree, too. The point is that I’d really like to do something different from the usual chat with my friends in front of a coke, but I don’t really know how to convince my friends – and especially, my parents. What should I do?  
Roberta

Hey dear,
I am a father and my daughter is 11 years old and she is already curious, like you. You have to remember that your parents are trying to protect you and this is because they love you. In time you’ll understand. What I just said is a cliché, I know, but it is a cliché because it is true...