John Peter Sloan

Dear John,
I’m in love with a guy and I can’t stop thinking about him, but there’s a huge problem. He is my best friend’s boyfriend. What should I do? Do I forget this boy, or should I talk to him or her about my feelings?
Marianna

Boys come and go, but true friends are forever! Never trade a friend for a boy. It is just wrong. Use this situation to set an important precedent in your life: never cheat on your friends! This is a rule. No boy is worth it. And in any case, if he liked you more, he would be with you, and not her!

Dear John,
Last year I spent three days in Rome with a young group of people from my city. In this group I met a special person and I fell in love with him. We started a wonderful story and it continued for a year. But there is a problem: he’s married. I have told him that I want to end our relationship, but he insists that he loves me. What should I do I to keep my distance from him?
Simona

I have heard so many of these stories in my life and they always end in tears. Your tears! Finish this now and get someone who is free. Even if he does leave his wife and you break up the family, it will be complicated. Love is only worth having if you are free from problems. There is only one thing to do: get out NOW! If he really loved you, he would already be with you. Good luck!

Dear John,
One day I was driving to work when my car stopped because it ran out of petrol.
I went home and found my husband in the kitchen with my young, blonde neighbour! They weren’t doing anything in particular, but they looked embarrassed. She had never been in my house before and, when I asked him why she was in the kitchen with him, he said she just wanted some advice about something. I want to believe him, but now I feel insecure about leaving him at home alone! What should I do?
Chiara

First of all, it’s always best to be 100 per cent certain about things before taking action. If I were you, I would take the car to a garage to make sure that it wasn’t the battery that made the car stop. Or, it may be that you need to change the oil! Check this with a mechanic before reaching any conclusions.